Surviving a Suicide

Resources to help with surviving a suicide
“Finding others who have been through it before you is like finding refuge in a storm.”
Mother who lost teenage son

How suicide bereavement is different:

Spiral of grief
Bereavement by suicide shares characteristics with other bereavements and it is also different.  Understanding how and why it differs is helpful when you are supporting people who have been bereaved.

Suicide loss can affect your physical and mental health and sometimes includes dealing with thoughts of suicide. The grieving process is often complicated and typically lasts longer than other types of bereavement – significant effects may still be felt for many years after the death. Grief is as individual as a fingerprint. Each person will have had a unique relationship with the person who died – there is no single or correct way to experience bereavement. However, there are many common reactions and factors in bereavements by suicide.

Faced with a sudden, often unexpected and sometimes violent death, the suicide bereaved experience a grief which typically includes strong feelings of guilt, self-reproach and questioning – “why?”. Discomfort, shame and self-stigma associated with suicide can make it difficult to talk about. There may be further challenges to face which are not common to ‘normal’ bereavements e.g. inquests, media coverage, trauma reactions and difficult family relationships.

Aspects of the experience of bereavement by suicide which make it different can include:

“I was feeling quite isolated because I felt that no one else knows what I was feeling”.
Woman who lost her partner
• Circumstances of the loss
• Emotional and physical reactions
• Post-traumatic stress
• The suicide bereaved’ questions – “why?” and “could I have done something?”
• Stigma and isolation
• Family and community tensions
• Lack of privacy
• Investigations
• Practical concerns regarding finances, business, childcare etc.

Those bereaved by suicide often feel isolated at a time when they are hurting, suffering mental anguish and are vulnerable themselves to thoughts of suicide.  Even those fortunate enough to have strong support networks can still feel alone, unable to share their true feelings for fear of their impact on others, particularly when they are also in a caring role for others who are bereaved.
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HUGG is a self-help organisation. We provide a safe, confidential environment in which those bereaved by suicide can share their experiences and feelings, and thereby giving and gaining support from each other.. The aftermath of a suicide is shocking, debilitating, surreal, life changing. But you can learn to live with this loss. It is not easy, but we are here to help.
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